The Madness of Managing Stress
There’s a whole booming business to do with managing stress and depression and all that and the real thing about it is that there’s no need for all this waste and nonsense about ‘managing the stress we have’ because all it takes is to manage stress is to eradicate stress completely out of our lives. Now isn’t THAT a better scenario!
“I’m stressed… I’m stressed… I’m stressed!”
How many times have we heard that cry? How many times have WE made that cry?
So when we drill down a little and get to the heart of the matter, stress is nothing more than our responses to what ever is going on in our lives.
No one else’s response… OURS. We took the responsiblity to RESPOND in whatever way we CHOSE.
And what do we make of the millionaire who is never busy but is prodigious in his output, prolific in his work… and has no ounce of stress in his life?
And on the other hand, how do we deal with the scenario where there’s 3 kids to get to school and a job to get to and a poor ailing mother to take care of… are the two scenarios somewhat the same?
Well, some may say NOT. Others may say maybe. The majority will say… put the bloody pills away!
So what’s going on here… what’s really cooking?
CHOICE
That’s what’s at the heart of it all. Choice.
The choice to be stressed, or not. The choice to get angry if the wheel gets a puncture, or not. The choice to speak in affectionate language, or not.
And so the cry goes out… YES, BUT I’M ONLY HUMAN!
And the cry on the other side goes out… YES… BUT I’M ONLY HUMAN!
Choice. Pure choice.
I can choose to fight and squabble and fly off the handle and act like an immature child with my spouse or relations… or… I can calmly and rationally… sort the thing out.
We’re NEVER forced to do one or the other.
It’s just the choice we make and take.
Because THAT’S where the stress emanates. In our own BRAIN. Nowhere else. Not OUTSIDE of us. IN… us. Us. Us Us.
The chaos of our life lies in our own brain and in our choice to go for the decision to be… ’stressed’. Nothing more. It’s really the end of the meeting on that topic.
Unless of course… we CHOOSE to open it up again and have an opinion about is that causes us… STRESS!
Interesting… isn’t it?
Raja Hireker is writer and coach specializing in helping individuals, coaches and business entrepreneurs create personal change and breakthrough transformations… all through his unique blend of powerful writing. He has ghostwritten over 130 articles and is also a professional advertising and email copywriter. You can visit his website http://CoachingByWriting.com and receive a remarkable free publication that’ll show you how transformational writing can change your life. You can also visit his transformational blog on http://Raja-Hireker.Blogspot.com You can reach Raja Hireker by fax/voicemail on 44 208 764 1085, or by email on RHireker@CoachingByWriting.com He lives in London, UK.
